Embracing the Spectrum of Confidence
Confidence is a fascinating, multi-faceted trait that has intrigued me lately. You often encounter countless blogs detailing "10 Ways to Boost Your Confidence" and similar advice, but true confidence is far more complex and personalized. It's not just about projecting an image or fitting into a prescribed mold; it's about recognizing and nurturing the diverse forms of confidence that permeate every aspect of your life.
Consider body confidence, for example. Some people feel at ease in their own skin, flaunting what they've got without hesitation. Others may find confidence in their educational achievements or professional skills. Then there's confidence in our roles as parents, partners, and friendships. Some may find great confidence in their own kitchens or house keeping abilities. Each of these facets influences how you navigate your world and interact with those around you.
Many, many women express feelings of inadequacy, saying they could never wear a particular outfit or speak as assertively as someone else because they lack "confidence." However, confidence is not a one-size-fits-all fucking trait; it varies just as much as our bodies do. You don't need to be the loudest voice in the room to be confident. Quiet confidence can be just as powerful, if not more so. You don't need to wear bright clothes or be the center of attention.
“confidence is not a one-size-fits-all fucking trait; it varies just as much as our bodies do.”
Authentic confidence comes from within and is reflected in how you feel about yourself, regardless of external perceptions.
For instance, I want to be confident in my painting. Some days, I feel on top of the world, and other days, self-doubt creeps in. But I've come to realize that true confidence lies in trusting the process. I am currently teaching myself more about illustrations I have a dream to be able to draw, paint and illustrate comic book covers. But this is ABSOLUTELY a new skill for me. So, even when my illustrations look like a child's scribbles, I know that with time and practice, my skills will improve. This confidence in my ability to learn and grow is deeply rooted in my journey as a self-taught artist.
BEING CONFIDENT DOES NOT MEAN YOU HAVE NO SELF DOUBT OR THAT THINGS DO NOT FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE.
Confidence definitely means embracing discomfort. When starting something new, like my journey with illustration, there will inevitably be moments of uncertainty. However, believing in your potential to develop and refine your abilities is a powerful form of confidence. It's okay to acknowledge that you're not great at something right now because the confidence that you'll get there eventually is what keeps you moving forward.
It's crucial to understand that confidence extends beyond our physical appearance or how we present our sexuality to the world. Confidence manifests in the choices we make and how we carry ourselves in various roles. My sister, for instance, is not as flamboyant as I am with her clothing or demeanor. Yet, she exudes a quiet confidence in her ability to love and care for her children. She might prefer neutral colors and understated styles, but her confidence shines through in her devotion to her family and her self-assuredness in her daily life. And this type of confidence is beautiful and absolutely eye inspiring to me, as I am always an “in your face” kinda person.
EVERYONE possess different types of confidence, and that's what makes the world vibrant and dynamic. By recognizing and appreciating the diverse forms of confidence around you, you can build upon them and inspire yourself and others to grow.
So, next time you doubt your confidence, remember that it comes in many shapes and sizes, just like you. Embrace it, nurture it, and let it guide you toward your best self.
XOXO,
Tiffany